Love and Life (Question and Answer)

Finding answers of the questions that keep running in your head while trying to process things could be overwhelming. But hey, I got you! I'm not know-it-all person but maybe I can help. At least a little though. So, here are random questions from friends and strangers that probably most of us would relate.

(Disclaimer: Some answers might not be accurate, these were reap from personal experiences and the books I have red. This could be right to me and wrong to you. Keep reading tho. Also, I translated the questions to make it understandable to everyone. No changes were made, except the language.)

1. Why does someone who doesn't want to hurt anyone keep secrets?

Either keeping a secret is his way of not hurting anyone or lying was far easier than confronting the discomfort of being honest. A coin hast two sides.Some people see deception as a way to save loved ones from further pain, while some just refuse to accept responsibility for the consequences of their actions. Either way, it's better to hurt someone with the truth than comfort him with a lie.

2. Why do people cheat?

There are too many reasons why people cheat. Sometimes their bored or they lack satisfaction. Even if you gave them all the reasons not to, that's not guaranteed that they won't cheat. Cheating is complicated, and it's a selfish choice. Know that when you're cheated on, it's not about you. It's not about what you did and you haven't. It's not because of you. You are not the problem, they are.

3. How can people find peace knowing they hurt someone?

It might be sad knowing this, but some people are too miserable that they tend not to care about other's feelings. So it doesn't matter if they hurt or destroy someone (whether consciously or unconsciously). You cannot control them, but you can control your reaction. Don't allow yourself to dwell on the things they did or wait until they feel sorry. Move on. Pray for them. They need it.

4.Why does someone still leave even when you tried your best to make things work?

Because some people will do what they want whenever they want. Maybe they found what the're looking for elsewhere. Or maybe there are just too jerk not to noticed the best thing in front of them. They might be blinded by other things. Or perhaps they are so fickle, they will continue to float between people, not quite sure what they really need or what they are looking for. So as for you, move on. Exhale a sigh of relief. You've had a lucky escape. It's not your loss.

5. Who do you think suffers more, the ones who left or the ones left behind?

I'd say, it depends on who loves the most. We tend to think that the ones left behind, the ones who got abandoned are the ones who suffers more. Chances are, the ones who left might not want to leave at all, but they have to. They might badly want to stay, but can't. So I'll firmly say the one who loves more, is the one who suffers more too.

6. How do you know when it's over?

Maybe, when things no longer work for the both of you. When the love that once held you close no longer enough to keep your stead. The pain outweighs the love. Relationships aren't supposed to be exhausting or draining. It shouldn't consume your energy or your whole being. You should not feel as if you are walking on eggshells. And you should definitely be smiling more than frowning. When it's not healthy anymore, when respect and consistency no longer serve at the table, I'm telling you; it's over.

To be continued and updated...